Domestic Violence is about power and control, a crime and a choice made by a person.
It is a pattern of controlling behaviors that may include physical, sexual or emotional abuse. Domestic violence occurs in heterosexual and homosexual relationships. Even if your partner does not physically harm you, threats of violence may be reinforced by intimidation, blame, denial, threats, isolation and force.
If you are a victim of domestic violence it is NOT your fault. Drugs or alcohol may make the abuse worse, but they are not the cause. The abuser IS responsible.m if your partner:
You may be a victim if your partner:
Kicks, pushes, hits or slaps you
Makes negative remarks or calls you names
Threatens to kill you or someone you love
Harms or threatens to kill animals
Forces you to have sex
Controls all or most of the money
Is possessive or extremely jealous
Threatens to take your children
Doesn’t allow you to see family or friends
Tells you what to wear
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TENDS TO GET WORSE OVER TIME,
IT DOES NOT GO AWAY ON IT’S OWN.
If you are experiencing domestic violence you should: Talk to a minister or friend, Get help from the local domestic violence center.
Practice an escape plan and share it with your children.
You Have The Right To:
Take threats seriously
Calls for assistance should be made from phones in a safe location
Use a baby sitter who will keep your plans confidential
Identify transportation options through friends, family, agencies and hotlines
Request confidentiality when working with agencies or other organizations
Ask a victim advocate to help with trusted friends and neighbors
Identify someone on the job who can help you if you are in danger
Make a list of people you can count on in case of an emergency
BE READY IF YOU DECIDE TO LEAVE
Your safety bag should be left with someone you trust and should contain important items and information such as: identification, spare keys, checkbook, bank statements, birth certificates, prescriptions, financial statements, pay stubs, EBT card, Social Security cards, insurance information, money, address book and school records.
Live without violence
File for a free injunction
Free safe emergency shelter
Free counseling and support services
File for custody of your children
Types of Abuse
Physical: hitting, slapping, punching or kicking
Emotional: isolation, threats, name calling, using religion or culture to control
Financial: controlling most or all of the money
Sexual: any unwanted touching or someone forces you to have sex
Elder Abuse: any intentional or neglectful act by a caregiver.
Did you know?
Battering on women is the most under
reported crime in America.
Domestic Violence is the leading cause of injury to women between the ages of 15 and 44 in the United States; more than car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined.